VALENTINE HACKS SPECIAL (INTIMACY TIPS THAT WILL DEFINITELY STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP)

Today is Valentine, saint Valentine would certainly be killed today, many relationships will attain new heights- some would flourish some would decline.
Sure you would never want yours to be among the waning. You'd really want your relationship to climb up the love ladder, then be sure to tryout this few stuffs- they definitely boost your intimacy, strengthen your relationship and make your marriage work.

1. COOK YOUR SPOUSE FAVORITE MEAL TODAY.

There is no doubts that most strong marriages have their foundation on the woman's ability to cook good food.
With human difference, everybody seems to have their different preference when it comes to the type of meal they eat.
Show him you value his value his preference. Today is lovers day- why not show him you care. You've carefully studied and have known his best, little surprise that he never knew you were monitoring him when he eat as to know what he loves best.

In doing this

• Try to be at your best- miss no recipe or step: essential or not. 
• Do the shopping yourself- send nobody: kid or no kid
• Find the best ingredients and be careful in calculating the quantities for desired quality
• Make sure he's away so that you would invite him special for the surprising package

This would surely appeal dearly to his feelings. When he's enjoying the meal, make him know iit's just for him. Let him see it would be like that like everyday. 

Prepare to see your romance get a new look

2. GO EXCERCISE TOGETHER

Sometimes Valentine isn't best enjoyed with gifts and text messages. 

Romantic and sensual exercise is a better option. 

Try something unusual; go to

• The gymnasium together and do same type of exercise preferably the woman's choice. 
• The field for sports; but consider not going with sportswear. Be on normal Valentine dress. Try any field or track event. 
• Play around at home. Try doing hide and seek- (if I catch you I will kiss you). Involve your children if there are any. 

3. SEND GIFTS

No doubts this is the most common practice. 

Try to be little picky the type of gifts you send. 

Send those that would appeal to their sensation and feelings. (Don't just decide sending flowers)

Women likes

Red and pink stuffs

• Beautifully coloured flowers with romantic scents and inscriptions. 
• Beautiful lingerie and bra of same colour(red or pink). 
• Beautiful cosmetics

Men likes

Blue, white and red stuffs

• Beautiful watches is good for your man. If you don't know this learn it today, all men love watches, it make them look smart. 
• Beautiful sneakers. Fine and brightly coloured shoes will make go nuts. What about surprising him with it. 
• Nice T-shirts works fine too

Children will like anything

But try get them this and see you become the best mum or dad alive 

• Video games: still remembers our kid days when it used to be "junior section; play is our watchword". They would like to go show their friends, try not stop them. 
• Candies
• Electronic gadgets 
• Nice clothes
• Sweet novels

This tips works at all times when you want to sstrengthen your relationship apart from Valentine. 

Happy married life.
Happy hotting Tuesday

Happy VALENTINE

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KNOWING WHAT'S MARRIAGE ESSENTIALS

MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS ....

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
 You know
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote,

  I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. 

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

SHARING IS CARING

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Remember love is the richest of all treasures. Without it there is nothing; and with it there is everything. Love never perishes , even if the bones of a lover are ground fine like powder. Just as the perfume of sandalwood does not leave it, even if it is completely ground up, similarly the basis of love is the soul, and it is indestructible and therefore eternal. Beauty can be destroyed , but not love.

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